Does it matter who proposes?


I received an Ask a Bougie Chick letter. Really more like a note. It was one paragraph:
Hi Chele, I decided to take the wheel and drive my relationship in the direction I wanted. He wasn't making a move so I bought my own engagement ring and proposed to my man of two years. He said yes! We're getting married in June. Everyone says I did too much but I got what I wanted. What do you think? ~Isabelle in Chicago
Ummm... I really don't know how I feel about that. I really don't. My gut reaction is to wince and say "What?" then my second reaction is to shrug and say, "Do you." Then I re-read the paragraph and bounce right back to "Oh." Had he even brought up marriage? Indicated that he was thinking along those lines?

I feel some kinda way about it. I wouldn't do it. I'm borderline salty you bought your own ring. Though it's not really about the ring. I just wish you'd left him something proactive to do in the process. And I wonder if a guy feels obligated to say yes if you ask. I don't know. I'm not feeling it. But I'm uber-traditional. Happy for you but not feeling it. Can I weigh in again after June? Let me ask the masses...

Ladies and Gents... thoughts, comments, insights? Does it matter who proposes? Answer the poll and leave a comment...