It's a testament of faith and good Christian values to forgive the unforgivable. I'm saying... I'm not there yet. I'm fresh out of cheeks to turn. I've got no "Oh that poor lost soul" excuses for a man who sits down in fellowship and runs away leaving devastation behind. That's some hateful behavior.Read More
I'm tardy to the party on this one because, ya know - I'm out here trying to live my life. As a sista. You feel me, tho? You don't mind me speaking to you in urban colloquialisms, do you? Didn't think so.Read More
BnB is undergoing a bit of a face lift. The end of May will mark the end of five years in BougieLand. To celebrate, I'll be posting weekly this summer and I'm working hard with talented folks to give BnB a fresh look. Stay tuned!
Ted Cruz, the Republican
Senator from Texas, announced his candidacy for the 2016 Presidential race this week. My first thought was - BWAHAHA! Followed by a confused 'Wait, what?' moment. Skipping past 'Why Lawd, why' confusion and landed on Le Sigh.
First of all, Texans don't even like this guy. We don't claim him. A bunch of "we don't want anything that looks like, thinks like or feels like Obama" fools got together and voted him in. But watch a Texas newscast and we're really more concerned about how much TeddyC is embarrassing us. As Texans, let alone Americans. We have enough shame what with Rick Perry showing out and people reminding us that Kennedy died here. We know. But TeddyC? Let's just say he won't get a plaque by the Alamo proclaiming him to be one of our Texas Heroes. That government shutdown move he pulled a year or so? Folks are still tart.
Next up - I thought he was Canadian. NTTAWWT (not that there's anything wrong with that) but I thought you had to be 100% steeped in the red, the white and the blue to run. So I wiki'd him and I guess his Mom was American so he gets a pass? Really disappointing. I was hoping to see the Royal Canadian Mounties ride down and swoop his ass up for a cross-border perp walk.
Thirdly, can NO ONE see the cray-cray? I mean, he's not a little off, he doesn't just march to the beat of a different drummer - dude has his own set of sheet music and he's the only one who can read the notes. Really, dude is Revelations-kind-of-cray. He's anti-women, anti-immigration (um, your dad is an immigrant? As are you, kinda?), anti-same sex marriage, anti-WhoAllKnowsWhatElse. He does want to get rid of the IRS though so... there's that. :-/
Lastly, I thought after the Obama of it all we (as a nation) had decided to only get the cool and smart kids to run the country? Didn't the Shrub experiment teach us enough? For some reason, I thought we'd all decided that coiffed, photo-op mouth pieces for the Tea Party were no bueno. Did no one send the memo to Ted? Do the reThugs even
this guy to run? At the very least, they have to have figured out that someone who alienates 50% of the country (women, minorities, sane folks) is not going to do well. Hi Mittens, how you doing?
Here's a highlight from Cruz's announcement.
In Cruz’s formal announcement for president, he lamented the low voter turnout rates for the Evangelical community. “Today, roughly half of born again Christians aren’t voting. They’re staying home. Imagine instead millions of people of faith all across America coming out to the polls and voting our values,” he said.
Is he calling those of us that DID vote faithless heathens?
Is anyone else equally terrified and amused by this guy or is it just me?
I have spent waaaaay too much time lately listening to people debate about depictions of black people via
. Which one is more real? Which is better? Which one helps or hurts the black community more? Whether modern black femininity is more epitomized by Olivia Pope or Cookie Lyon? Is it worse to see Olivia bouncing back between Fitz and Jake or to see Lucious Lyon's overt homophobia?
Someone even went so far to say that
. Oh dear, are we still trying to get one TV show to reflect the entire panoramic experience of Black American lives? Are we still looking to well-written but nonetheless fictional TV shows to accurately depict those lives?
Let's all take a minute, breathe deep and stop.
First of all, this is finely crafted fiction. Acted and directed for entertainment purposes only. If you happen to grab a life lesson here and there from an episode or two... so be it. But let's not act like any of us don't see the good, the bad and the ugly in both of these shows. They are both wonderful and awful.
Let's talk leading ladies - These ladies are really fly in their own way. Cookie is not more "real" than Olivia and Olivia is not "balling harder" than Cookie. I know people who are half Cookie, half Olivia. Coolivia? Olivkie? I know people who are very Cookie with a dollop of Olivia. I know people who are not like either one of them but covet their shoes.
At the end of the day, these are two fictional black women who are come from two different places. Some of their issues (wrong-man-choosing, meeting secretly with law enforcement, family drama, yaki hair laid all the heaven) are the same. Some are very different. They are both complex, complicated and both happen to look good stomping in four inch heels.
But they are not by any means perfect:
Bless their hearts. I don't know about you but I don't know any women who spent 17 years in jail and came out on top. Let alone any who spent 17 years in and less than six months later is a millionaire in a penthouse. Nor do I know any women whose father ran a super secret black ops agency, slept with the President and has 2/3rd of the Washington power players on speed dial.
What I do like about both shows is that they are entertaining (if I overlook the Liv held captive episodes) and bring more to the table that your average TV drama/soap. Like them or not, you do get caught up in the characters' lives. It's escapism at it's best. Music on both shows is top notch. Whether your life has been more Lyon or Pope is for you to decide. I think there's room for both of these shows on the DVRs of all viewers.
Were there articles complaining that
depicted white people in the wrong way or that
Two & a half men
wasn't a realistic depiction of single fatherhood or
wasn't inclusive enough? Different stories, told different ways. The best way to depict them all is to find a way to get all of them on TV. Can we (black folks) celebrate the win of having shows with people that look like us on TV and work to get more?
Let me sidebar two shows that gave me great joy this season:
How to Get Away with Murder
. There have been some scenes with Jenifer Lewis and Laurence Fishborne that are hold-your-sides funny.
And actually, some of the realest "black" moments on TV were between Viola Davis and Cicely Tyson.
That whole episode when Mama came to town was about as real as it gets. But again, fictionalized because not once when my mother was doing my hair back in the day did she confess to murder and arson. LOL! It's TV people.
My point? Besides embedding all the fun gifs - is to say (once again) we are not a monolith. The fun of humanity is in the variety. The fact that we have some things that are common (love, sleep, taxes, the necessity to take in oxygen) and then a whole bunch of stuff that is markedly different. Instead of pitting one experience against the other, why not be glad of the existence of all?
Just a thought. You can go back to debating whether to take Lucious or Huck on a drive by with you now. :-)
Comments, insights? Who is watching which (or both or none) of these shows and why?
was all it was marketed to be: a brilliant and sometimes painfully honest look at the fight for the right to vote which came to a head in Selma, Alabama in 1965. Martin Luther King, Jr and Coretta Scott King were played masterfully by David Oyelowo and Carmen Ejogo. The supporting cast was impressive and the story felt authentic. By authentic, I mean it felt like the story was being told without any obvious hidden agenda.
No spoilers but they kept it really real. No one was all saint or all villain. Everyone was human. LBJ was not painted as a benevolent savior for the colored folk and Martin Luther King's faults, fears and foibles were on display. You winced and you sympathized and you exhaled. As for the flow of the movie, the opening scene ripped your heart out and you never really got it back because you knew what laid ahead.
The dialogue and scenery made sense for the movie and even though you knew what was going to happen, you were so embedded in the moment that things still came as a surprise, or a laugh, or a disappointment or a prayer. It's a rare movie that allows for that kind of emotional investment but
is just that good.
On the other hand, I have to admit that I'm thoroughly weary of seeing black folks catch a beatdown on the big screen, in real life, just generally. Sick. Of. It. There was a couple sitting behind us that said, "Wow, that scene looked just like Ferguson from a few weeks ago." Unfortunate and true. Apparently in this country, some lessons need to be learned and learned again.
The best thing about
is that it gives a detailed almost "behind the scenes" look at one of the pivotal moments in the Civil Rights Movement. The worst thing about
is that it is a stark reminder that no matter how many strides of progress have been made, we have not overcome as yet.
I walked out of the movie conflicted. Watching the movie felt like a journey. However, when the movie ended we hadn't reached our destination yet. Much as I loved the artistry of the film, it's not one I'll watch over and over again.
Have you or will you see it? Thoughts, comments, insights? Do share...
- Rarely do the best things happen overnight or without a bit of sweat equity. This counts in relationships and work.
- Be careful what you wish for cuz you just might get it. Can I get a witness?
- Not everything you want is what you need. C'mon somebody.
|In the words of the Commodores - How can she lose those things she use?|
For clarification purposes, let me start out by explaining that I started referring to naked aerobics between folks as "swirling the cocoa" or "sharing the cocoa" or "stirring the cocoa" (basically all verbiage involving making and partaking of cocoa) a few years back. I can't remember why. I had a good reason at the time and then it kind of became a thing: Cuddle cocoa, pity cocoa, hot and bubbly cocoa vs. yesterday's cold and curdled cocoa, measuring a man's stirring implement, sipping vs. over-indulging... you catch my drift.
Guy1 asks, "Bruh, you are comparing a man watching SportsCenter to a woman eating chocolate? That's not even apples or oranges. More like watching Durant vs Bron in a game seven for the championship."